Sunday, November 30, 2008

NOVEMBER 30, 2008 - ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS EVEN ONE TOOTH TO GNAW ON!!!




Hello All Dearest Ones,
Yes, you are looking at those bad boys and girls!! I truly wish I had left even just one of these left behind so I could possibly even gnaw!! Thanksgiving was great, and I did all right, but I sure wish I could have done a bit better.
I finally went into the hospital on November 20. It was very unclear about every thing, other than the teeth were coming out and that the doctors greatly preferred that I spend the night in the hospital, but then on was pretty well left up to me!!
My Surgeon was a complete dream doctor!! I only would ask why he did not choose to become a medical General Practitioner!! This Surgeon conferred with my regular doctors and determined travel was not good for me in any way, shape or form!! Thus, he volunteered to make the trip of 50 miles up to the local hospital here!! I would have gotten far better care going to Davenport, but the trip home could have been extraordinarily hard if I had a bad go of this!! The Surgeon telephoned me the night previous to my surgery to reassure me every thing would go fine!! Upon arriving at the hospital the following day this doctor was there before me and was first to greet me and show me to the "kennel" they had assigned me. The Anesthesiologist even had issues with these extra small cubicles!! He talked at length with my mother attempting to explain every thing to her. Eunice had brought her to the hospital with us. Mother does not stand too much any more, but she truly does not hear much any more and refuses to even discuss a hearing aid or any thing!! The Surgeon then exchanged pleasantries with Eunice as she really had no questions and then he pretty much sat and tried to calm my raw nerves. He rolled the bed into the Operating Room and held my hand all the way through until I was out!! He was also the first person I saw in the Recovery Room. He accompanied me up to the Medical Floor and told Eunice he would sit with us until he knew I was comfortable.
Comfort would not come in those first few moments upon them transferring me. The Surgeon decided he would do some thing, but get a nurse any too quick, simply does not happen in that hospital!! He then asked me if I was in discomfort and I said, "OH, YEAH!!!" He then went out to Nurse's Station himself and got the bolus of Morphine and put it in my Port. I got instant relief and that was it, as the nurses suddenly rushed in with the Morphine Pump and got it working and pumping regularly into me. The Surgeon did leave. My Mother was absolutely having a "melt down" and said she had "never seen me look worse after any of my other surgeries"!! Eunice finally took her home as Granny Lou had arrived and said she would stay for awhile until Eunice could return. Eunice was not gone long and returned set to stay as long as she felt she was needed!! I was told I immediately went into deep sleep and Eunice vowed to the staff she wanted me kept that way and unhooked the telephone even!! Eunice later told me she stayed till about 11:00 p.m.
I had a fairly good night!! The next morning my regular doctor arrived, at his usual rounds time just before 8:00 a.m. and actually woke me up. He asked how I was feeling and what did I want to do. I told him I probably would have been open to staying, but since I had been placed on the Medical Floor instead of the Surgical Floor I really thought I would be better off at home!! The Medical Floor at our local hospital is one of the very worse!! Thus, he explained my increased morphine amounts over my usual daily dosages and told me if this did not hold me that I could call him at any time and he would do some thing else!!
Thus, I called for Eunice. Eunice answered her phone barely!! I wondered if she was even awake, but it turned out she was quite ill again!! I told her I would just have to call upon some of my other friends, but she said "absolutely not"!! She told me to just get as ready to go home as I could and that some one would be there very soon to take me home!! In a very short time, Wanda appeared and said she was taking me home and that she intended to call in to her regular job that afternoon and say she was not coming back to her office, and that she would stay with me!! However, as soon as we got pulled into my driveway, Eunice came running across the street in her night gown and robe!! She insisted on helping me transfer and assisted me getting into the house. I thought it was way too cold for her to be even out. After we got in the house, Eunice insisted Wanda go back to work and she then resettled me in to my bed and she made a bed on my couch!! And, of course, my dearest little one was right there all hyper and stressed out wanting to see me immediately!! Thus, Eunice put little Miprezious up into my bed also. Mi and I talked and talked while cuddling a whole lot as she had quite a story to tell me!! I knew better and that she had been spoiled as much as possible by Marion and Granny Lou!!
And, YES, I came home with all the teeth I went in with!! I have yet to see any evidence of the TOOTH FAIRY arriving!! What is the secret of this one? LOL!! LOL!!
Well, I always vowed I would go to my grave with all my natural teeth!! Albeit they may now have to be in my pocket or perhaps even purse, but they will go with me!!
I had so wanted to get my "12 Days of Christmas" Exchange finished and shipped prior to going in to the hospital, but it just was not to be!! I had the most wonderful pattern made by our own "Vee". She is a good friend who is also a Designer and owns her own Design Company. I love her things!! And, she is the very best and most wonderful friend!! She designed a chart just for my Exchange Partner for me the very night Colin gave me the name of my Exchange Partner!! And, in my mail box the following morning was this wonderful chart!! I do not know if I have a decent picture to show of it or not!! I took pictures, but they were not very good!! The important thing was my stitched piece was phenominal!! It is so lovely, on the perfect fabric and included many beaded areas. Perhaps, my Exchange Partner can send me a much better picture. BUT, I had worked on this piece daily beginning like the Sunday after my surgery on Thursday!! I was not going to be late on this one!! Well, I worked all of Tuesday on trying to finish this piece as my second Flatfold!! The fabric for this was a perfect match to the piece. And, I worked non-stop on trying to make that flatfold. Kathy K. told me I had a step by step illustration of what I had done the first time right on my own Webshots!! I had not remembered this and I am sure she knew this!! Kathy is always so diplomatic in trying to tell me I messed something up!! I had a complete success going until the very end and WALLA - I put the stitched piece on upside down!! Now, Cynthia tells me just say it is the first and original of my own designed upside down flatfold. And, of course, Kathy tells me she would give any thing to have such a stitched piece from me as she is aware of how long it takes me with all my disabilities now to complete any piece!! Well, this is surely overdue to her!! But, unfortunately, I did not have Kathy K. or Cynthia for my exchange partner. I am not sure, at all, if my Exhange Partner is going to feel so "special"!! But, I simply had to send it on as I had no choice at that late date!!
Presently, I am working on getting out all the spoken for "STASH TO GO"!! I am also stitching like crazy on an Erica Michaels piece called "A Good Neighbor Is Found Treasure"!! I need to make two of these for Granny Lou and Eunice for Christmas, I HOPE!! I truly would like to make duplicates, minus the original new upside down-ness, for Eunice, Marion and Granny Lou, but I think I am WAY out of my present realm for right now!! However, after working only last night and today and tonight, I am very well on my way of nearly finishing my first one!!
Unfortunately, tomorrow is my day for another re-check of my melonoma status. And, as usual, this requires yet another trip to Davenport, which is 50 miles away!!
But, going to Davenport, also means getting access to all the GOOD food!! Eunice and I had to go back to Davenport this past Friday to have my surgery rechecked. The Surgeon said he thought I could begin to increase my food intake a bit!! I just sat and truly prayed for Eunice's mouth not to move in any way other that verbalizing only "Goodbye and Thank You"!! I truly can not complain I went hungry. Eunice was quite ill, but her only worry was passing a nasty bronchial cold/sore throat thing on to me. Thus, upon bringing me home she had made a great pot of home made chicken noodle soup and cherry jello!! We had also gotten cottage cheese on the advice of Kathy K. That is pretty much what I existed on through Sunday. I was getting quite hungry by Monday morning.
Eunice and I got drafted into the Benevolent Society's 622 Thanksgiving FoodBasket distribution on Monday morning. I really did not know if I could do it or not!! But, I did!! After we had put in our shift there, Eunice wanted to know if I could try to eat scrambled eggs or some thing quite soft at the Village Inn. We were to meet Marion there. I said, "why not"!! And, so away we went. She ordered scrambled eggs for me and they came with wonderful crisp hash browns and pancakes!! I ate the whole thing!!
Oh, and I must mention, I was not overly excited about the holidays at all. Thanksgiving really kind of sneaked up on me with my surgery and all. On Wednesday evening, Eunice called over and asked me what I was doing. Well, I was waiting on one of the gals from the salon to come and comb my hair was it for the evening!! So, Eunice then asked if I would like to come over and keep her company as she had hours and hours of cooking to put in that night!! Well, I still can not see skin color, but I must admit to experiencing many black cultural things, all of which have been very good things for me, since becoming such close friends to Eunice and her husband, Marion and having such good relationships with my Caregivers, most of whom just happen to be black!! And, Eunice's Thanksgiving plans were quite much of a black cultural thing in the way she was preparing many things, so I knew I could learn a lot. I just wondered how in the world she thought her and I could get me up her 25 steps that comprise her entry up her home front very much on the hill of hills in this neighborhood!! As it turned out, the gal who came to comb my hair volunteered to help!! Thus, they wheeled me over to the base of the steps and took my wheelchair to the first of three landings on the way UP!! Then, they each took a side and I went for it. It truly went very easily and very well!! I truly feel I am going to be walking on my own by this coming Spring. I think I will set Easter as my true "coming out or coming back or whatever"!! I was thoroughly exhausted as were my "helpers", but we did it so I had to rest a bit initially!! However, soon I was diving right into doing whatever Eunice assigned me from my sitting position on her island bar in her kitchen. It was wonderful, as I finally got to actually see Eunice's home and how wonderful the new dining room set I gave her last year looked in her dining room also!! And, I baked my first sweet potato pies. Learned there is real macaroni and cheese and it is not all Kraft!! Had the most awesome, kick butt, deviled eggs made with several things I never heard of before that included Maraschino Cherry Juice!! I made four pans of corn bread the previous evening in my own home for her. Marion had picked them up and they were all such perfect and golden brown squares!! And, this night, I got to pick them up and totally smash them so they could be made into Eunice's famous cornbread stuffing. Well, the cornbread did not really bother me, but when Eunice suddenly dumped a bunch of black slimmy looking things into it when she thought I was not looking it was the deal breaker!! Oysters!! I changed the name from cornbread stuffing to rotted gut stuffing immediately and decided from that moment on I would make my own sage and onion dressing and bring it along the next day. And, I helped and saw the special way of cooking sweet potatoes was done and how it was specially seasoned that no one is supposed to know!! Again, I thought, going to try out those Ore'Ida Microwave Steamed Mashed Potatoes that have been staring at me from my freezer. Eunice took those potatoes home when she and Marion returned me home about midnight!! We also backed banana pudding and several other things that I just can not think of now besides a big turkey and ham!!
I had pretty much decided that this Thanksgiving was meant to be just another day for me although I had so much to be thankful for this past year!! However, Eunice and Marion would not hear of this and ordered that I get ready to go to their home all of Thanksgiving. Eunice has four Schnassuers ( I know I slaughtered spelling) DOGS!! I turned out to be very allergic of these dogs that caused extreme stuffiness for me. However, Eunice's oldest daughter is very allergic and suffers to point of complete asthma attack!! Eunice's grown children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren were all very much encouraged to come home for Thanksgiving together this year. This was the very first time Eunice had accepted, and decided she could, have them all together since the death of her thirty-seven year old son a little over two years ago. And, amazingly all of them did show up. They just kept coming and coming and coming!!
I thought the odds there were not real good considering Eunice had only one extra bedroom, sofa and den had one sofa and additionally considering only ONE toilet and shower!! I really thought this was a special time for them to have gotten all together again, but Eunice ordered her "boys" to come for me and not to let me walk as I had exhausted myself the night before. Well, I finally said "Yes", but only if we did the steps again the same as night before. We kind of did, except the boys just kind of picked me up each step!! I was delighted in finally meeting all her family and they were all so very, very nice!! In fact, the oldest daughter that suffered so from the dogs (which guests had brought two or three additional ones along also) quickly accepted my offer of my "That Room" as Wanda had prepared it for occupancy when I went into the hospital as she thought it would surely be used!! It was such a delight to have someone here in the home again!!
Another cute thing!! I did make up a sage and onion dressing as a side dish as I did not have a bird to use. I simply made it up in an 8" dish. It turned out a bit too crispy for my "gumming", but was put out on buffet. I heard one of the kids answer someone's "what is this" with "Bread Pudding"!! I thought "oh, good answer"!! And, as each person went through the buffet line the message was carried back of "Bread Pudding"!! After every one had ate all they had planned to for that round, I asked "Okay, whose dressing got ate the most"? My "Sage and Onion Dressing" was gone!! Naturally, Eunice's Cornbread Dressing started out with more, but the dish was not nearly empty!! And, then some one said, "No, that was Bread Pudding"!!
Eunice laughed and laughed and laughed!! I just told her that "I was a quick learner"!!
I truly am NOT looking forward to the Christmas holidays whatsoever!! I do imagine my mother will put in a brief appearance, but willl have to be home before dark. Eunice and Marion always go into Chicago for the Christmas holidays!! Granny Lou has a standing room only crowd sometimes or else no one. I have no idea what it will be this year. But, I simply am not decorating or planning too much this year. Too many changes!! If, I can just finally finish my main "Stitching Sanctuary" I will be absolutely thrilled to simply camp out in it for the holiday and just hope it passes quickly, which always happens when I can stitch!!
And, I was quite thankful this Thanksgiving!! I am so very, very happy that I finally had the determination and follow-through to tell Max he had to leave MY HOME!! It was a long time coming!! We will have thirty years in December 21 and it seems like they were all in vain!! But, if I had not gotten the strength to just finally tell him to leave, I can only take a wild guess as to the condition I would be in by now. Max simply wanted me to be a bedridden invalid so he could finally control me!! I thank the good Lord daily that I did get that strength to tell him to leave and I truly thank him for giving me the strength to try and be an independent adult again. I have come so far since July 16!! I pretty much was completely bedridden the past six or seven years simply so Max could control me. I can see so very much now in hindsight which is of little value except to point out things I will never let happen to me again!! I am doing so very well after a very rough and rocky year and I am ever so grateful!!
It is clear that Miprezious and I are going to be absolutely okay!!
Love and Hugs!!
Deborah
and
Miprezious, too!!


Tuesday, November 18, 2008

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 2008 - I GOT A SURPRISE!!







Hello My Dear Ones,

I had a real pleasant surprise today!! This sure took my mind off "the countdown"!!

I got a totally awesome and wonderful Bourse and Fob from dear XSGranny Rene!!

I absolutely love it!! It will surely be on my most cherished shelf!! Thank you so very much Rene!! This is the picture above for you all to see!!

Oh, this reminds me, I got a fantastic RAK from Kathy K. also that I have not yet pictured on here!! I will definitely make a note to do this ASAP!! Kathy sent a truly awesome and beautiful Halloween Fob several days ago!! Thank you so much Kathy!!

I must keep this update short!! One, I don't really have much to update on and Two, I have to spend every moment I can beg, borrow or steal on my "12 Days of Christmas" Exchange stitched piece!! I am very close to being finished with the actual stitching, but I need to "finish" it to complete it. This could prove to be a real challenge to me!!

All of my "STASH TO GO" has been finally posted!! It goes without saying that I do not think I will be able to do too much as far as getting it out before my hospitalization and surgery!! It will be top on my list to do when I get going again though. I truly want to "finally" get my "Stitching Sanctuary" completely done!! I have discovered I need to do the big closet space in this room before I can truly call it done. I have about 200 big kits in two very, very large plastic tubs in this closet space and they are overflowing mega lot!! I want this all clean, organized and sorted out!!

I plan on continuing my quest to rid every thing in MY HOME of "Mad Max"!! I have a foyer and it's closet, large built in shelves and drawers in connecting hall, bathroom and, unfortunately, "THAT Room" that is going to be turned into my new "Stitching Sanctuary" this winter according to Eunice and Wanda to finish yet!! The kitchen's carpet is clean and that room is absolutely PERFECTION!! Soon I will have MY HOME and all is going to be fine!! I then intend to stitch, stitch, stitch and stitch some more then!!

Please continue the good vibrations and prayers for my nerves to calm down and that I can fly through Thursday's surgery even better than I did the surgery in September!!

Love and Hugs!!

Deborah

and

Miprezious, too!!

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 17, 2008

Hello All Dearest Ones,

The early bird catches the worm!! My most devote followers of my Blog have seen the 185 iteems I have posted on my Webshots album!! I do not know what will really be left, but I will open it up to the entire Group after my surgery and when all the first round things have been sent out!!

I have two way larger than I can lift tubs of full sized kits. There are probably close to 200 of them!! This will be the next spot I hit!! Then, I will be going in to "That Room", that Eunice and Wanda have vowed to move my "Stitching Sanctuary" into this winter, and I will be going through about 300 small kits and a five shelf bookcase of nothing but older charts from before my accident time!! I think I will again handle them each in the same manner as I did this "STASH TO GO"!!

I sure am getting a bit more nervous, if that is truly possible to do, about my surgery on Thursday!! I am well covered with many prayers and good vibrations!! I sincerely hope you all really say special prayers at about noon till 3:00 p.m. ish!! I just have to some how get a hold of my self so I can concentrate on letting my pain medications work!! As soon as I feel confident that my pain is under control I can be discharged from the hospital. Eunice took Miprezious to the Groomer today. Eunice was a bit late, so instead of the usual hour, the groomer said she would have to keep Mi for a few hours to work her in between other dogs!! I was not happy, but I could not have done better!! The groomer's husband is very near end of his battle with brain cancer!! The groomer is cutting to half days through the holidays and then she is not sure what will happen. For the past few months, she has slightly "razor burned" Mi!! It was bad enough it really upset me, but today was absolutely a crime!! Poor little Mi is burned all the way down her stomach and her private parts!! I am absolutely PISSED OFF!! LIVIDLY PISSED OFF!!
Consequently, it is going to be harder than ever for me to leave the little one!! I have been applying corn starch to her as often as she lets me know it needs redoing. The little sweetie had soft little cries all the way home and after!! Initially, I thought this was just her upset that Eunice had taken her without Mommy. However, late afternoon Wanda arrived and for some reason Mi went right to her and rolled over to show her!! Now, I really do not want to leave my little darling, as no one will keep applying the corn starch like Mommy!! Consequently, I will be wanting to come home immediately for her!! I realize I just can not do so until I am sure I have reached adequate pain control levels as I will be no good to either Mi or my self if I am in more pain than usual!!

I really have to hit my "12 Days of Christmas" Exchange hard the next 24-36 hours!! I would love to have it all complete and shipped out before I leave for the hospital ideally. However, I do have Plan B in the works with Wanda able to handle it for me if necessary!!

Thus, I do not know if it will be possible to get postage rates and envelopes readied before I go in to the hospital. I will try though!! If not, it will be first on top of my list of "To Do" List when I get home again!!

Well, I did finish all 185 items on Webshots!! Enjoy!! And, I hope every one will be able to get every thing they wanted!! Thanks for replies!!

Love and Hugs!!
Deborah
and
Miprezious, too!!

Sunday, November 16, 2008

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 16, 2008 - COUNT DOWN TO OVER IT!!

Hello All Dearest Ones,

Well, the final count down is ticking away!! On Thursday, November 20, I am hoping and praying that I will undergo my last surgery of my life time!! Good Grief!! There is little else they could possibly figure out to do!!

I should have realized long ago, that having to have my tonsils and adnoids out twice as a child that I was predestined for multiple surgeries!! And, this past September, marked the second time my bowel was resected!! And, looking back, I have had countless numbers of surgeries for my mylenoma cancer. There was the large tumor in my left cheek bone and the reconstructive surgery for it!! And, then we went into the gallbladder rupturing before surgery could be performed and I was on operating table a bit over six hours and I had to spend 40 days in the hospital!! And, then there was the massive fibroid tumor and malignancy of my ovaries that resulted in a complete hysterectomy.

And, then in 2000, more of the evasive gall stones showed up, and they had taken up residence in my liver duct!! I had been on my feet all day taking care of Patty as this was the day she entered the hospital for a quick D & C. This soon escalated into a full adominal hysterectomy which was abruptly stopped when it was discovered she had massive cancer!! Her surgery was stopped to try and get her enough strength to be taken to the University of Iowa Oncology Unit in an attempt to remove the cancer. I had promised to stay with her for that "same day surgery" until she could be discharged and would recuperate at my home!! Well, that plan went down the toilet real quickly!! About midnight, the pains I had been having all that day just literally took my breath while helping Patty up to bathroom again. This bout of pains took me right to the hospital floor my self!! I was promptly picked up and taken down to the Emergency Room where the on call doctor diagnosed me as having "sympathy pains" for my dear friend, Patty!! He admitted me and had me placed in the other bed in Patty's room!! A few hours later, Patty was at my bedside as I was being rushed to emergency surgery to unblock my liver. I was one sick puppy!! Patty was taken to Iowa City, examined and treatment began. Yet, Patty was back at my bedside before I was discharged from the local hospital!! It was fast going into the holiday season and the many holiday balls we went to back then. Both of us had decided there was no way we were either going to miss the big Holiday Ball we both looked forward to each year!! And, the big Holiday Ball was the first time either of us ventured out!! I can remember so well how both our dates were so skeptical of taking us any where as we both walked kind of stooped over. But, we both danced almost every dance of the night!! Then, right after the New Year's Eve Ball we both had to go back into the hospital again!! Patty went back to University Hospital for her hysterectomy and I went back in locally to have the stints placed in my liver removed. After this, things went pretty well until the first bowel resection.

NOW, I have to go into the hospital on Thursday to have all the bits and pieces that used to be my teeth removed!! My RSD illness coupled with the many medications I must take for any quality of life have been taking a major toll on my entire body, however, they really took out my teeth. A few months ago, my teeth began disinigrating and all had crumbled within a ten day period!! I made arrangements in July to have my teeth removed, however, my stomach had other ideas. Thus, in September, I was taken in to the hospital for emergency surgery, however, it was for another bowel resection!!

In between all these surgeries, it finally became very apparent that I needed a port catherer placed in my chest for IV access!! I went into the local hospital to have this Port placed in my chest and ended up with the dumest anesthesiologist on this earth. I came to right as the surgery began!! I really had night terrors for months over this!! You always hear of such tales and think they are just that "tales"!! But, they definitely are NOT!! I can only remember the Surgeon just becoming instantly lividly mad!! The Surgeon ordered every thing stop and he had a nurse making transfer arrangements to Davenport, 50 miles south of us, even before I was taken from the Operating Room!! I was taken down to Genesis Hospital and taken back into surgery and the Port was quite successfully and easily placed!! What an ordeal!!

So, Thursday is D-Day for my teeth and mouth. The Oral Surgeon has been a real nice man!! He volunteered to make the 50 mile drive north to Clinton and perform the surgery locally so I could be near my home and friends!! This Surgeon thought it would be easier on me to not have to travel my self and to be close to home as he would like to see me stay in the hospital for a few days!! The plan is to take out all my teeth and then reduce four bones in my upper gums.
I have never been such a big chicken in my life!! I have been waking up with night terrors of this surgery and recuperation. My local General Practitioner is to take over my care after the surgery. The Oral Surgeon was concerned about many things and very cautiously started to ask about the possibility of my going into the hospital and be put completely out!! I told him that it was absolutely NO problem as I was not going to have it done any other way!! I definitely want to be put out for this operation and I want to stay put out for about two weeks!! I do not think or can remember being so apprehensive and upset about any surgery as I am about this one. However, most of my surgeries were all emergencies and I had little time to think about any thing!!

And, my most significant surgery, was one of the very first for nasal polyps. It was up at Dubuque Finley Hospital. I know it was one of first and I feared it like nothing else in my life!! I had a very nice Eye, Ear, Nose and Throat Specialist for a doctor and surgeon. At one point, he bargained with me to get me to consent to this procedure. I had been admiring one of his staff's beautiful earrings. She informed me they only came in pierced version. I was telling her how badly I wanted my ears pierced, but was way too CHICKEN to do so!! The doctor overheard us talking, and he presented bargaining of his piercing my ears while out with anesthesia if I allowed the much needed polyp surgery to take place. Well, now he was talking some thing I could understand and I sure signed on that dotted line real quickly!!

And, I am looking at this present surgery's pay off also!! I have requested all my teeth, or pieces of them, be returned to me after this surgery! The pre-op nurse is quite upset by such a request, however, my anesthesiologist assured me that even in spite of her he was assuring me the full return of all my teeth after the surgery is completed!! "WHY"? "What possible reason do you have for them"? was the reaction I got from the pre-op nurse!! Well, last I knew one tooth was worth at least $1 from the tooth fairy!! I think they said 26 teeth would be coming out and that is quite a nice little sum to haul!! And, I further told her that I always vowed to go to my grave with my own teeth!! Well, albeit in my pocket, but my teeth are going to my grave with me!!

I have been stitching all along, but afraid this has to be a secret!! It is appearing to be one of my very best projects ever, but it is also my "12 Days of Christmas" Exchange stitched piece so it has to be a secret for a bit yet!! Just wish me luck on finishing of this piece!!

I am hoping to get a whole lot of stitching done while down recuperating from this new surgery!! I am being assured from my General Practitioner, that he will make sure I have whatever morphine levels I need to attain complete pain control and I am going to keep him at that promise!! I can do any thing, if I don't have to deal with pain!!

Well, my STASH TO GO has had tremendous response!! I am so glad these pieces are going to good homes!! I have posted some 115 pieces thus far and I have a total of 185 ready from this clearing. I have two more large clearings after this one. I wanted to get this one out of the way if at all possible as soon as possible!!

Well, ladies and gents, please keep me close in good vibrations and prayers all week, but especially Thursday!! Thursday morning that I get out of this home, Thursday afternoon as my Surgeon begins my procedure at 1:00 p.m. and Thursday evening, that I will be as good as can be and missing my little Miprezious and will want to come home first thing in the morning!! And, pray that little Miprezious does not chew through the rest of my entry door in the kitchen and that she does not have too bad of separation anxiety problems this time!!

And, what do you think my chances of going for the second hole for earrings this time? I really have always wanted permanent diamond studs in a second hole!!

Love and Hugs,
Deborah
and
Miprezious, too!!

Saturday, November 15, 2008

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 15, 2008 - RESPONSES!!

Hello Dearest Ones,

I had a wonderful, wonderful Friday and today, Saturday, appears to to be a great day also!! It is VERY cold and frigid outside!! But, it is not likely any one is willing to take me out in this any way!

I am a bit calmer today, but then I was awake all night by one tooth that does just throb!! By Thursday, I will be ready to get rid of each and every one of them!!

I have had dozens and dozens of responses wanting my "STASH TO GO"!! This is good as it is a few less boxes to trip me and cause me to fall!!

I was able to stitch last night, but it is for an exchange that I can't talk about yet!!

Well, I am off to prepare some envelopes for mailing, piddle around the home perfecting this and that and I need an exchange finish soon so I need to get those needles smoking!!

Love and Hugs!!

Deborah
and
Miprezious, too!!

Friday, November 14, 2008

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 2008 - I AM WOMAN, A VERY STRONG WOMAN!!!

HELLO ALL MY DEAREST ONES!!





Well, it appears that my Blog photographs and I are not getting along any better today!! Well, let me describe them so you can see them when they are mentioned in the Blog. One is a single TEA CUP and another is two TEAPOTS!! And, then the darker ones, is my new passion of decorating with TWIGS WITH LIGHTS, which is newest and hotest trend out in decorating magazines and decorators!! I finally go my and love them!! And, the other pictures are of my all so coveted and wanted PINK PRINCESS STYLE TELEPHONE!!




























































Today was my last, at least I hope, visits for pre-operation details!! Eunice was ready to scold me as I had a bunch of four letter words to say today!! My blood pressure has been totally out of whack all week, as my dear doctor continues to point out!! And, I have been IRRITATED to the very core all week by Max!!




MAX has gotten so desperate for things to do to make Deborah irritated that he finally went to my Medical Supply Store and picked up my monthly allotment of Huber needles needed for my port!! This would have irritated me, but IF he would have brought them to me it would have been fine and okay!! BUT, HE DID NOT!! These needles can not be replaced by any means each month as they are part of the FDA contract covering my medical needs!! The FDA contract has many quirks, such as you get one prescription each month and that is it, NO exceptions!! It does protect me with the amount of morphine and equipment needed to be okayed and protects the doctor in prescribing such amounts!! Thus, one shot at needles!! Max, in his all out wisdom elected to hold my needles hostage for EIGHT DAYS!!




Very simply, after a day of some additonal exasperation at the hospital I blew!! These needles are very important!! I needed very badly to have my port flushed on Monday during my doctor's appointment for pre-op evaluation!! Tomorrow would have pushed all limits!! The night Max choose to hit me he landed his punch right where my port is located. Max knows how all important this port is to my general well being!! If it is damaged, it has to be replaced!! This thought terrorizes me as some of you may remember that I came to from the anesthesia almost immediately after the start of the surgery and terrorized does not describe this scene!! My Surgeon immediately stopped the surgery and had me transferred to Davenport Genesis Hospital to have it completed, which was a 50 mile ambulance ride!! I think Max would like to have to make me go out of town and see what I shall do with out him!! Rejoice and be glad is what I would do!! But, I don't really want to have this if it can be delayed as long as possible!!




Thus, after supper tonight, Eunice asked what I intended to do!! And, I just told her watch me!!


I went to the telephone and I dialed the local police station. I told the Dispatcher my dilemma and she told me she would dispatch a squad to my home!! Within a few minutes this squad and it's officers arrived!! They told me that since Max has not removed all of his things from MY HOME that there was really little they could do!! They told me they would take a chance this evening and would see if they could help me!! They asked where Max was and I told them he was more than likely down putting on his facade at the local AA meeting and that is just where he was!! The Police Officer asked for his cell phone number. I readily gave it to them, but with the call coming from here I told them it was doubtful if he would answer as he has not the last eight days for me!! One of the Police Officers telephoned Max at the AA Meeting while the other dispatched a closer car to the AA Center and had those officers go in and tell Max he was to leave for MY HOME with their escort immediately as the Officer on the phone was telling Max. Oh, was he lividly P/Oed and ranting and raving!! First Officers brought him in here and he threw the needles!! Other Officers asked why Max had not taken the time to remove the rest of his things from MY HOME!! Max, of course, went with his dialysis plea!! The Officers asked how he could "go exert himself at the local casino for so many hours each day, spending in excess of $3,500 this month alone and dialysis did not seem to bother him"!!!! Gotcha Again Max!!!


Police Officers gave him till 6:00 P.M. tomorrow night to get his last things from here!! Well, he had surgery tomorrow and he could not do any thing!! So, they immediately asked when he could do it? Well, he did not know as he would have to find someone to do it!! I said, "Hey, my Caretaker did not have any trouble, and she is a woman, taking it all down to the basement in about a hour Max"!!! Police Officers told Max I would be deciding on a date and time and that would be it, that he either take his things or Good Will!! Hurray for our local Police Officers!!!!




Max continues to think and vainly try to "bully" me!! I am no longer afraid to let him have it right back!! He continues to owe my mother $500, but with his casino daily habit he can not quite see his way to paying her any thing, even a small payment!! And, Max is in to his eye balls with THREE different "Pay Day Loan Companys"!! I did telll the Police Officers how he went to these Pay Day Loan companies and put down the man's address and telephone number who was kind enough to give him shelter when I told him he had to leave!!! Max has sunk to all out bottom of the barrel scum and I truly do not know him any more!!




In 1999, when Max went off of his anti-psychotic drugs and his bi-polar took over he took on the very personna of a CIA AGENT working for the FBI!! How ridiculous!! And, he went about his missions, in his best three piece suits, and he got away with it all until he went about 90 miles west of us to Cedar Rapids and tried to board several planes just because he was Agent Markham and this Agent did not need a proper airline ticket!! And, he was good, as no one notified authorities until he was on his sixth attempt at boarding airlines!! Once again, I got the pre 8:00 a.m. telephone call, "Hello Mrs. Markham (that would be Ms. Jones now) are you married to Max Markham? Regretably for a bit yet!! Does he have any prior history of mental problems or substance abuse? Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, that is affirmative to all things!!


So, tonight he comes from the AA Meeting in full fatigues greens!! OMG!! I bet I am really married to the original G.I. Joe now and do not even know it, or else surely a full Colonel by now!! Wow, I shopped at Good Will today and to think I could have went to Arsenal PX!!




So, much for Max and hopefully so for a very long, long time with the police although he was not under arrest!!




And, for the rest of my day!! Eunice came to take me to the hospital for the pre-op process!! They take care of every thing now and the day of Surgery you just go and sit in a waiting room until they come for you!! Oh Boy!! They have gone high tech since getting their bedside laptop computers!! We will be more than a one-horse town any day now!!




The Nurse we drew is a "B"!! Sorry, I would like to say something nice about her, but from year's standing she is a "B"!! Well, she starts out that for my 1:00 P.M. surgery I would need to be there at 11:30 a.m.!! I told her that their Same Day Surgery Rooms could be compared with kennels and I have seen them larger!! I tell you there is not room for two nurses, the patient and their spouse in that little cubicle!! I told her flat out, that I get very claustrophobic and that I was not coming over there to sit in that "Cage" for 90 minutes as there was absolutely NO need for it!! And, she says well you need to have IVs started!! And, I told her I thought NOT as I have a fully operational Port and they would be using it!! And, this "B" says that NO ONE goes into their Operating Rooms without an IV attached!! So, I just raised my voice one more octave than her's and told her they must have just resected by bowel in the ambulance garage just in September as I did NOT have any IVS the entire ten days!! Well, was she insulted!! And, she says what was the big deal with the IV? And, I told her that if they even had ONE nurse in their entire system who knew how to start them I guess nothing, but thus far I had never seen one!!


Well, she would have to call the Surgery's Nurses Station!! It just honks me off, that they are playing this game, as it is cut and dried that I am going to stay in that "hellhole" until I am able to handle the aftermath by myself at home which may take three to five days and possibly longer!! Why can they not just put me in a private room on the Surgical floor!!!! Well, the Same Day Nurses Station told this "B" she would have to call in the anesthesiast on call and see what he had to say on their practices!! Dah, they don't see it every day here!! This is comforting and I point it out to the "B"!! So, a rather young and extremely nice anthesiast came down and in to see us!! He explained every thing to me and I liked him quite well. He then asked if I wanted him to take care of me and I told him, "Yes, I would like that"!! He tried to take over, however the "B" just would not let him!! She kept getting up and running to one phone after another calling someone else about me and got very little answers!! Eunice kept saying, "Good Grief, just let the anesthiesalogist take over and tell us the facts as he does them"!! First, he told me there was no reason for me to be there 90 minutes before "show time"!! He told me 11:30-11:45 a.m. would be just fine!! Then, he asked about the damn IV again!! I told him I had a port and that I took great pains in making sure it was flushes every 3-4 weeks whether we used it or not!! He asked why I had the port and I told him as I did not have any veins!! He looked at the "B" and said write that down!! And, he told me, to rest easy as no one would be starting an additional IV and that my port would be used for every thing as it had been for my surgery in September!! And, then the "B" said some thing to the effect of keeping me "unaware long enough" and I told her I would be out "cold" "blackened" "no being awake whatsoever" and I could see the anesthesiaologist begin to say "spinal" and I shut him off also!! I told them that my doctor had promised me I would be completely out!! And, the "B" says, "Oh, you just want your mouth deadened, that is all" and I just came unglued!! I told her I wanted to be out COLD as my doctor had promised and that was that!! She then gave me a perfect opening to bring up my surgery in 2005 where the anesthesiaologist was an idiot and I awoke right after the surgery had began"!! Oh, now she remembered!! Aw, I bet she did!! Thus, the anesthesiaologist took over again!! He started trying to talk me into a "spinal" and I told him to watch my lips and I said NO WAY IN HELL!! I WANT TO BE, AND WAS PROMISED TO BE, OUT COLD!!! He finally said, Okay, he got the picture!! Then the "B" began to question my staying in the hospital. I just also reared right up again, although Eunice tried to rub my shoulder and bring me down and I told her this was NOT her decision and to butt out!! The anesthesiaist had been looking at my record, and he told her that I had been on life support with heart failure and kidney failure and that he would be questioning if the doctors had not wanted me to stay in the hospital!!




I did see my local General Practitioner on Monday!! He assured me he was taking over my local care and that I was welcome to stay in the hospital as long as the insurance companies would allow!! Although, he presented me with another plan of his. He said, quite frankly, he was fed up with the hysteria of people's opinions about increasing my morphine dosages!! He said he could increase it substantially, and was more than willing to do this, so that I would have adequate pain control without having to have morphine pump attached to my port!! He said he would then be more than willing to again monitor me from my home!! So, he said it was totally up to how I felt as to what happens as far as my having to stay in the hospital!! This was so all reassuring to me!! I do not want Miprezious to have to go through another bout of separation anxiety as it is really too hard on that little bundle of joy!!




And, now for the conclusion!! I told this "B" that I wanted all my teeth!! She said "WHAT!!"" I wanted all my teeth!! Oh, well, gee, dah, um, ah, IIIIIIIIeeeee, nothing!! And, then she wanted to know "why in the world I wanted them"!! I then told her that I was looking to make the "big haul from the tooth fairy with that bunch of teeth"!! The Anesthesiologist has a GOOD humor!!


Even Eunice was laughing!! Then, I said, seriously, I have always vowed to leave this earth with my own teeth!! Okay, perhaps these will be in a pocket, but they will be going!! Anesthesiaolgist is rolling all but on the floor and the "B" is getting more P?oed!! Any bets my next Blog contains a picture of my teeth?!?!!!!




I truly am so very distraught and upset with every thing presently!! I need to find my serenity and peace very soon!! I do not want to go into this surgery with any negatives or hostillities in me!! I predict it will take some serious stitching going in to it and coming out of it!! I plan to have my stitching bag packed!! Oh, that was another thing with the "B"!! She kept repeating to me to bring my own tooth paste and tooth brush in an overnight bag!! Eunice kept telling her she thought this was the first of many times, that I was truly in no need of toothbrush and toothpaste!! She still did not get it!!




Well, Max has been trying to stick me with a large cell phone bill each month!! Eunice wants our cell phone companies to be compatible with hers!! She calls me the most on mine and vice versa!! So, we went cell phone shopping and when we find one, I am cancelling the "old" cell phones on the spot!! I guess it looks like I am coming into new age of camera and possibly computer on my cell phone!! I've never even text messaged or received one and certainly do not know how to!! I am still confused enough with my computer!! We went to several cell phone companies, however, it appears my I Wireless is the very best of best price out there!! Decisions, decisions, decisions,!!
Then, Eunice and I left the last cell phone store front and what do we see, but the big Good Will Thrift Store! I have never been able to really go in and see it. Eunice got me and settled very well in wheelchair so t b hat I could dangle me feet and toddle along where I wanted to. We had a blast!! And, we stayed in that store for over two hours!! I found one bargain after another!! I bought my long sought after and coveted PINK PRINCESS PHONE and for only $3.38!! There were two young men working the floor and I had a real good time with them. They loved the compliments and the more I gave the better prices our items received!! Eunice could not believe me!! Then, I found two regular teapots, one mini tea pot and a tea pot that is a candle holder. I also forgot to post over the weekend also of the great find that Wanda had made at this Good Will Store of a whole bag of stitching kits!! They were a very good find. It is wonderful to have Wanda aware of the type of stitching I am doing so she is able to pick these kind of things up for me as she spends many a lunch hour in the Good Will Store!!
And, lastly my long awaited LIGHTED TWIGS arrived this week!! I am really looking for a vase now to put them in!! Eunice actually loved them!! I am thinking on ordering another set for her for Christmas!! She is the very hardest person ever to buy for.
And, my kitchen finally got finished right down to the carpet cleaning!! It turned out really good!! Would love to try and get my Stitching Sanctuary carpet done before the Surgery, but it is simply not going to happen I am afraid!! Eunice has been having a fit lately that I must begin to pace myself!! However, it just seems so wonderful that I am on top of things finally and able to do some things I have not been able to even oversee for the last seven years. There is so much I have yet to be able to do, but I am well on my way!!
I still am very upset about my upcoming Surgery next week, but I am finding it to be less scary every day part in my nerves are calming down thanks to my ever present calming voice of Eunice. And, secondly, my teeth are beginning to actually hurt, in spite of my daily morphine, to the point of some mega discomfort!!
Well, today I will begin the posting of my new STASH TO GO!! I am not sure if I can get it on Webshots album or if I need to make an additional Blog posting, but the first will be on by noon Friday!! Now, again, my rules of STASH TO GO are each item is $1 and the actual postage and handling (actual cost of envelope and/or box, whatever it takes). I am going to allow two weeks for the postage and $1 per item to arrive after agreeing upon it!! The STASH TO GO will go to the first person who emails me PRIVATELY, not taking up space on the Main Board, on a first come first served basis!! If the payment is not received by the two weeks agreed upon the STASH TO GO will go to the next person requesting it. And, remember I know there are people in this Group who have far worse problems than myself and many others!! If this be your case and the $1 and postage is a hardship, I would much rather this money go to buying that extra gallon of milk or whatever needs are present in your family. But, as you know, my memory needs jogging much of the time. I do remember all those hurting when prompted, but sometimes I do forget so please do not feel bad at all, about gently reminding me of your problems so we can come to different agreement!! You can be sure I am totally discrete and nothing goes beyond me!!
Well, hopefully this will do it until the weekend is over!! I will be posting STASH TO GO either on my WEBSHOTS or if it does not go well there on a different BLOG right here!!
Have a wonderful weekend all!!
Love and Hugs!
Deborah
and
Mirprezious, too!!
WE ARE OKAY!!




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Sunday, November 9, 2008

NOVEMBER 09, 2008 - WONDERFUL, WONDERFUL WEEKEND

SECOND ATTEMPT AT A BIRTHDAY CAKE THIS DAY!! EUNICE TRULY LOVES THE CAKE!! THAT LOOK ON HER FACE IS SIMPLY THE RESULT OF THREE BAILEY'S IRISH CREMES AT SUPPER!! Sorry Eunice, I simply can not tell a lie!!

UGLIEST BIRTHDAY CAKE IN ENTIRE WORLD!!! THIS IS ABSOLUTELY BUTT UGLY BIRTHDAY CAKE OR ANY TIME CAKE!! Only in this neighborhood, could I produce such an ugly cake and be told it is beautiful and just fine!!










Hello All My Dearest Ones


I had my first really fully packed, and mobile, weekend I have had since May, 2002!!!


I am beyond exhausted, but it is a GOOD exhausted!

Max returned to his old haunts drinking, gambling and a big dose of pathological lying!! I was personally greeted by an IRS Agent on Wednesday of this past week!! I thought "OH, NO!! This could be real trouble!!", however, they made it perfectly clear several times "THIS DOES NOT CONCERN YOU!!
Okay!! This truly works for me!! Big sigh of RELIEF!! I was given a message, that should I have contact with Max that he was to call a phone number they left and that "if, they had not been contacted by Max by this past Friday, that they would be personally finding him theirselves!!"!! Okie, Dokie!! This again works for me!! Thus, I did leave a few messages for Max about town which I rarely do for any reason!! Max decided at 1:37 A.M., Thursday morning, to re-start-up his verbal abuse of me!! I DON'T THINK SO - NOT ANY LONGER WITH THIS WOMAN!! Well, Eunice's husband, Marion, has just went through some enlightenment to the fact that he was suppposed to be Max's AA Sponsor!! Max had called me to tell me that Marion could no longer be his AA Sponsor because Eunice and Marion were so close to me!! Marion has NEVER been Max's AA Sponsor EVER!! Max further told me that "Harvey" had now replaced Marion!! And, furthermore, that Max was finally ready to do Steps Four and Five of the AA Twelve Steps after contemplating them since 1999!! Oh, how really lame Max!! It seems "Harvey" advised Max to go get a motel room where he could have peace, quiet and cleanliness away from the "Animal House" Room he rents from another AA member who evidently also has never turned his life to AA Twelve Step Program, but shows up regularly!! Thus, Max went off the weekend prior to this one, to "find himself" and then confess what "pains he had inflicted on other people" to his new AA Sponsor, "Harvey"!! Well, everyone rolled their eyes to this whopper, but as long as Max was leaving me alone, pay for a motel room for the weekend, even though he owes "MY MOTHER" $500!!! Gee, Max do you think you could start atoning and pay the 80-year old woman who helped you out, and just close yourself into your plush suite at the "Animal House"!! Probably not, but when you drink at a casino, it just seems easier to pay the $89 per night and just stay there!! Well, dear Marion was quite worried about Max, (One of these times, Marion is going to add up all the lies and deceit and quit caring at all) and the IRS "contacting" him on Friday as when the verbal abuse began upon waking me on Thursday morning at 1:37 a.m. I promptly slammed down the telephone and took it off the hook!! Thus, Max did not inquire or care about getting the IRS information from me and just decreed "he would be up after dialysis that morning"!! I had told him, I found I actually do have a life despite his best efforts to make me a homebound invalid and perhaps I would not be home "after dialysis"!! This was the point when the verbal abuse began, although the slurring of each word was kind of hard to tell!! Thus, dear Marion did go to the AA meeting place on Thursday morning and tried to find out if some one knew of how to get ahold of Max as he had a bit of an important matter to handle through HIS WIFE!! No response, so Marion went to "Harvey" and asked about he getting ahold of Max since HE was Max's AA Sponsor!! Well, it seems this was the first "Harvey" had heard about Max having him as his AA Sponsor!! Opps, Max caught like a rat in a trap!! My father always said, "just give him enough rope, as he hangs himself every time" and my father was NEVER wrong!
This whole couple of days was WAY too much drama for me!! But, it was such a fitting prelude to my weekend!! I again proved over and over and over I CAN and MIPREZIOUS AND I ARE OKAY!!
On Thursday afternoon, I was quite upset yet from my rude awakening that morning way too early!! Eunice told me to take the phone off the hook and take a nap as she had a manicure and pedicure appointment at 4:00 p.m. that afternoon and that she would take me out some where to simply get out of the house while she was at Spa!! I opted for Wal-Mart!! Wanda had just had me out to Wal-Mart on Monday evening!! I got a full cart with Wanda and was just overjoyed to have gotten to Wal-Mart and not having a raving lunatic attached to me screaming he would leave me at Wal-Mart if I did not leave immediately with him iregardless if I was only half way through my list as Max "had important things to do"!! I remember those days of just having to get to the casino on the last visit he took me to Wal-Mart!! Well, Eunice just pulled up to the front doors of Wal-Mart and got me secured on one of those miraculous riding carts and told me to enjoy myself!! And, enjoy I did!! I just finally got to do my complete list which ended up being another full cart!! I needed to get a water filtration system for my "home" and since I have continued to fall asleep in my chair while stitching and continued to fall out, Eunice wanted me to start getting into my bed to stitch at night!! Now, we all know how hard of a position this is to get in to!! Since I spent the last six years pretty much homebound in bed a majority of the time positioning was not my problem, while lighting was!! Thus, I had to find a new light that would attach to the headboard of my bed!! And, I did find a really nice and very bright lamp that is doing the job really well!! And, there was several other just little things I have always wanted to pick up!! About two hours later, Eunice called my cell phone to tell me she was in the parking lot of Wal-Mart and she wanted to know where I was!! I told her I had checked out and that I was firmly attached to the bench in the front foyer of Wal-Mart!! Eunice told me to stay right where I was!! Thus, Eunice proceeded to come in Wal-Mart just for bananas!! Well, she promptly had the Wal-Mart Greeter lock up my full cart of things and she put me in yet another one of those fantastic riding carts!! And, off we went!! And, did we go!! Eunice came out with pretty much as full of a cart as I had and I had additionally picked up four bags of "chewy" candies as my last hurrah!! And, Eunice called for "Carry-Out" Person ASAP!! We got home and got unpacked and I was really tired!!
Eunice sat and chatted for awhile and got ready to go over to her own home!! Before she left, she asked me if I wanted to go to a Martin Luther King UNITY Fund Raiser the next evening that Wanda (Eunice's best friend here and now my good friend and part-time Caregiver) was very much a part of!! We went and we had a fantastic dinner and a "little" wine!! It did not take me much of that wine to get a real "buzz" combined with my daily morphine dosage!! I had forgotten all about my days of going out for "a drink"!! Another item to cross off my "bucket list" of once again reclaiming my freedom!! We had a real nice evening of food, wine and really great conversations!!
Eunice brought me home and got me resettled in on Friday evening. She then told me she would be over first thing Saturday morning and she would get me set up for online banking for my household accounts!! Well, she ended calling me about noon, I was still in bed in spite of Granny Lou trying to check if I was okay earlier, to tell me change of plans!! Granny Lou is a real dear as she calls me every morning to make sure I am able to get out of my bed and that I am okay for the day!! Fortunately, I have had very few problems, but she is over in a few minutes if I indicate I am having any problems whatsoever!! Well, Eunice has several "adoptees", besides me, that she has inherited over the years she taught BD Students at the local High School.

One of her "adoptees", "Ben", was making a very vain attempt to get back to Clinton to see his sister before she passed from California!! Ben was on an AmTrak Train and was due in the nearest Train Depot about 150 miles east of us in Galesburg, Illinois. And, needless to say, we were off to the Train Depot in Galesburg, Illinois!
And, this was one of the most horrific things I had heard yet of our local medical community!! This "sister" was in her early 50's in age. She had a slight mental condition that only was evident in that she needed to be supervised while living alone. She had fallen and the Step-Mother who was supposed to have been taking care of her evidently was not. A sister found this poor woman on the floor where she had laid for the prior three days!! She was taken by 911 Ambulance to the hospital. I believe she was found to have a broken hip and surgery was scheduled and began!! Immediately, upon the start of this surgery for her hip she was found to have a massive cancer which was fast taking over her bones!! She had an ulcerated area that was quite large and that continually had bled, but no one noticed or cared!! Thus, she was taken to one of the local "hellhole" Nursing Homes from the hospital!! Ben was called in California and immediately began making his way to Iowa!! Evidently, some time on Friday, this poor woman was simply told she was going to die!! Her response was crying to the point of hysteria and she was totally alone!! A sister arrived some time from the East coast in the wee morning hours of the night on Saturday morning and immediately went to the Nursing Home!! Early Saturday morning, the sister that was passing in the Nursing Home was able to contact Ben via cell phone while he was stilll on the train. He said all he was able to hear was her hysterical crying for quite some time!! Then, he said there was a complete silence and some stranger picked up the phone and simply told Ben that his sister had suddenly quit crying, put a smile on her face and simply proceeded to pass on to heaven (this woman had surely served her Hell on earth)!! Well, at least, this is what I hope happened!! But, nevertheless, NEVER have I heard of such total
tackiness and inappropriate handling by a Nursing Home!! I do not personally know these people, but if Eunice said they were good people then you can be sure they were just that!

I can not get the vision of this slightly mentally challenged woman alone in that Nursing Home and being told she was going to pass while alone with no one with her!! And, to be left just to cry herself into hysteria state and go in to the process of passing from this earth!! I think this is nothing short of negligence of that Nursing Home!! Thus, Ben's sister passed at 8:09 a.m. Saturday morning while we did not even reach the Train Depot until about 3:00 p.m. Saturday afternoon and we had to make the 150 mile trip back to Clinton again!! This is still a cruel world to some people!!
Well, Eunice once again got me returned to my home and resettled!! I had just went along to keep Eunice company on that long journey!! But, we had a real nice chat along the way!!

Eunice and I have been going "shopping" for about a month now every Sunday morning!!
We are shopping for a church that we both can relate to and enjoy together!! Eunice's husband, Marion, may join us after we find where we intend to settle in to!! Thus, we had to decide where we were going to head this morning so we could find out time and place!! Eunice was raised Catholic and for that matter so was I. Eunice is kind of wanting to check out the Catholic community here!! I truly have no interest in settling in to the Catholic community and church!! I have nothing against the Catholics, but since I am divorced the Catholic community deems me unfit to be entitled to my rights to have Communion and other sacraments of the Catholic church!! I just can not relate to this nor am I too comfortable with this!! Some years ago, I found a church home with the Episcopalian community here. I jokingly refer to it as my Catholic-lite!! I became very good friends with the Episcopalian priest that was here at the time I did join that church. He loved, and would find any, and every, reason he could to be invited over here for dinner!! Thus, we decided to check out my old home church that I was very active in up until my accident and Max's adamant refusal to take me to any church service!!

Well, the Episcopalians must be early risers, as the church service began at 9:30 a.m. this morning!! That is a wee bit early for Eunice!! She does real well at 10:00 p.m. although!! We were just a smidgen bit late!! Unbeknown to Eunice, there are no side aisles we could just ease into a pew from in this church!! No, just one small main aisle!! I had no idea how far into the mass they had gotten prior to our arrival, but I was well aware they had gotten started WITHOUT US!! I had just remarked to Eunice that the priest, Mother Sue, would probably drop when she actually saw me coming into the church for the first time!! Mother Sue is a phenominal lady who happens to be an Episcopal Priest!! And, a very good job she does!! And, she did come to a silence and loose her place upon our arrival and having to try to wheel down the main aisle at least half way into the church!! And, next thing, I realize, Mother Sue, is welcoming back the old member who has been absent a number of years and the brand new visitor!! I wanted to crawl under a pew!! Mother Sue has been very good about bringing me Communion under special circumstances outside of the church and also annointing me for special blessing of the ill throughout my years absent in my home and in spite of Max's crude and rude treatment of her right up until this past year's Christmas week!!
It was a very special and moving time for me this morning!! Communion time came and the usher arrived at our pew!! I began to try and get up on my own to go to Communion and a dear friend in the pew behind me told me I did not have to go to the Communion Rail in front of church as Mother Sue would come down to me. I told her I truly appreciated this, but I WANTED to make my way, on my own, on my walker!! Eunice was full of apprehension as she was not familiar with being just allowed to go to Communion without the benefit of Confession, etc., etc. and my new announcement of "I CAN" go to Communion Rail myself on my walker!!
I never had so many pairs of hands on my walker and myself!! I felt like the lead locomotive of a train!! But, I DID IT!! And, upon Mother Sue reaching me she had already pulled her holy oil out and gave me a special annointing for healing and Communion!!
It was so wonderful seeing all the many people I knew from some six to seven years ago!!
And, there was no chance of Eunice and I leaving that church without coffee, brownie and welcome box!! We went into church hall and had a cup of punch and were given a welcome box from one of the men in the church!! He was the same man who caught us exiting the sanctuary and put a pen in my hand and insisted we sign the visitng book!! He then offered us calendars, prayer books, sign-up sheets and asked if I could use pick-up to church any Sunday!! Upon our finally being able to leave we where given nicely wrapped boxes by this same man and he offered to carry them out for us to my van!! It was truly a very lovely welcome back and I truly felt like I had never been gone!
I sincerely hope Eunice found it fulfilling for her and that we will give it additional chances to become our home church!! It will be hard to go any where else now, but I will as Eunice and I made a deal to "shop" until we found exactly what we both wanted!!
Our day got real hectic from that point on so I have not had an opportunity to really be able to hear what Eunice thought!!
And, right as we were leaving the church hall one of the more elderly ladies popped up and said Hello to us!! She looked right at me and began pointing her finger at me and I thought, oh no, what did I do and did not do now!! And, loudly she shouts, "you are the bazaar lady" and my first thoughts were how could she have come to that opinion of me as I had not even been introduced to her yet!! And, I so much as told her this for lack of little else to say!! She then clarified herself and told of all my stitching things I had donated over the years and who had what hanging in their homes!! I wanted to say, would you all mind emailing me pictures of these wonderful things as my "finishes" are a bit on the slim side this year!! Of course, wiped out of my memory were several wonderful sounding projects actually finished!!
Once again Eunice got me back into my home and resettled!! Eunice's birthday is tomorrow, Monday, November 10. Yesterday while enroute back home from the Train Depot, Eunice's cell phone rang and it was her son from Chicago!! He asked what she had planned for her birthday as he and his girlfriend were going to come on out to Clinton, about 3 hour trip, for the day. Eunice said "the neighbors" were taking her out for dinner at 5:00 p.m., but other than that she had no plans. So, her son said he would be here on Monday!! Well, Eunice "thought" she was going to go out for dinner just with Marion, Granny Lou and myself, but that was not "quite" the drill we had planned!!
Before I get ahead of myself and forget, I promptly had to get into my wrapped box from the church!! And, Miprezious made it easy work in a very few minutes as she loves to "open"!! In the box, was a lovely fairly large big ole coffee mug along with some lovely coffees and teas. But, then tucked away among the phamlets and booklets was a lovely loave of home made banana nut bread!! What more incentive would you need to read the enclosed literature, short of a reader popping out of the box also!! This church has really went out for the close of every deal with every one they encounter!! I called Eunice and asked if she had opened her box yet. She had and was amazed also!! I told her we did not get any thing from the Baptist visits we had made the prior two weeks. And, I told her we had to start checking as to who was giving out what!! We could easily acquire a nice collection of things in our "shopping" yet!! LOL!!
Well, Eunice had left her husband for church this morning with the request of "no breakfasting after" as he REALLY wanted to see a new movie here at theaters called "Apalloosa"!! Eunice was under impression this was going to be one of her favorite flicks being a western!!
Well, after getting resettled in my home last night, I thought about Eunice's son's telephone call and thought why should she have to cut her visit with him short to go out to dinner with us!!
So, I called Granny Lou and told her of the new development in our party Monday plans!!
We decided we could easily go out for dinner on Sunday evening as well as Monday as Marion has both days off from work!! So, Granny Lou and I make a "conference" call to Eunice to decide on changing dinner plans to Sunday night instead of Monday night so Eunice could enjoy son's visit!! Eunice thought this would be wonderful!! Thus, I had to call every one else and hope they also had Sunday free!! And, every thing was changed to this evening and all planned on attending!! Thus, I want Eunice to leave my home to go to her home after church so I could begin attempting to bake my first birthday cake in seven years!! Good thing I had early start!!
Eunice had went back across the street and was preparing to go to the movies with her husband!! I was frantically trying to figure out how I was going to make a "coconut" birthday cake!! I was staring aimlessly out my kitchen window thinking Eunice and Marion should be pulling out of their driveway soon to get to the movie theater!! And, right before my eyes should appear, a small red car in front of Eunice's home!! They were due to leave any minute!! And, what did I next see? Eunice's son and his girlfriend!! I just thought what was he doing here today when he was due here tomorrow!! Well, he got to thinking also last evening and thought well if his mom was going out for dinner with neighbors on her birthday Monday than he would just come on out today on Sunday!! Talk about slapstick silent movies!! This neighborhood was fast becoming one big one!! And, I am looking out my kitchen window, thinking does no one else notice Eunice's son arriving a day early now!! Guess not!! So, I turn to put me cake into the oven and I pivot back up to window and Eunice's truck is gone!! Now, I am thinking, did her son go to the movies with them or what!! How could four people move that darn fast!!
So, I am again thinking, do I call EVERYONE again and reschedule Eunice's birthday party to Monday again!! Well, soon my oven timer was going off and from that point on I had very little time to fret over the day of the party as it appeared we were going to be lacking a birthday cake!!
Above you can see "Butt Ugliest Birthday Cake in all of America"!! I thought things were just going too well with my cake!! I could not do some thing that easy!! I went over to take the cake out of the oven and pure terror filled my body!! One end was as thin as paper and the other end had to be 3 inches high!! However, the thin end was getting too dark and the thick end was still soup!! So, I think put it back in the oven so I could at least throw it out of the pan in one piece such as it was!! And, I begin cake number two!! I don't have enough ingredients for another German Chocolate Cake so I make a White Cake!!
I figured out what I had done!! My oven rack was on lowest position in oven so I tried to move it upwards!! I put one end on two and the other end on three!! Perfect ski slope cake!!
And, at this point, Eunice calls me on her cell phone about 3:00 p.m. Eunice and Marion were to have been in movie till 4:45 p.m. and plans were for they to meet Granny Lou and I out at Applebee's Restaurant as it is out by movie theaters!! Eunice then tells me her son came to town and did I still want to go to dinner tonight or did I want to reschedule the reschedule back to tomorrow night!! I am frazzled by now!! Eunice has phone on speaker so Marion knew what to do!! I finally just told Eunice we had a few "other" people, a mere dozen more, invited to meet us at Applebee's at 5:00 p.m.!! Well, Eunice still did not catch it as she was trying to tell me they had just seen the worst and shortest "western" movie ever!! Apalloosa is NOT a western, it is about a city named Apalloosa and Marion and Eunice hated the movie!! Finally, I said, "Eunice, you are going to make me have the reputation of a blabbermouth!!" Eunice asked what did I mean. I told her that I had birthday cake and ice cream at my home also!! She had been oblivious hearing there were other people coming!! Eunice proceeds to admonish me for going out again after she had taken me home and resettled me!! And, she wanted to know WHO had taken me out!! I told her I had not went out!! She wanted to know where the birthday cake had come from then!! I told her I had baked them as I had no bakery open today to get a bought cake!! And, I told her it was "coconut"!! Eunice lit up then!! Oh, we could just go on with dinner plans and cake and ice cream later then tonight!! Okay, we are all back on same night again at this point!! So, I start to tell her about my failed German Chocolate Cake!! And, all I hear is Marion yelling "DO NOT dump that chocolate cake and he had dibs on it"!! So, Eunice and Marion said they would come on back home and then we all could go out to restaurant together!!
Now, Marion did not even know about all the other dozen people!! So, I finally told her there would be too many as Wanda was going to ride out with us!! Well, this also delighted Eunice!!
So, we agreed to take two vehicles to the restaurant!!
I am rushing to get myself ready to go to dinner and a guy I know called to "chat" about "my husband"!! I thought no not today!! This guy proceeds to tell me that he has big and ugly men beating on his apartment door attempting to find Max as he owes them money!! Max is doing business with THREE of these "Pay-Day Loan Stores"!! I can not believe this!! The man gets over $3,000 per month and only pays $225 per month for his room at the "Animal House"!! He has not paid one penny towards the $5,000 plus in medical bills he owes for himself!!
Nor, has he attempted to pay one penny to my mother who he owes $500 to!! BUT, yet he is "giving" our local casino almost $3,000 per month and still borrows from PAY-DAY Loan Stores!! Some thing is very wrong with this picture!! And, this man who called me is the very guy who gave Max a place to stay until he found the "Animal House" room when I told him he had to leave MY HOME!! And, Max thanks this man for his generousity by giving these Loan Stores the man's address and phone numbers!!! This poor man is forunate to be on the National Donor Transplant List and he is towards the top and near getting a new kidney!! But, yet Max has got Loan Sharks tying up this man's phones and coming to his door!! Well, Max has definitely hit a new all time low for even him!!
I again begin to start getting ready to go to dinner and I am now running late!! But, soon Wanda arrived to drive my van out to Applebee's and also picks up Granny Lou!! Wanda proceeds to tell me that yet another couple from out-of-town has arrived and she has invited them out to the restaurant also!! I am totally bewildered and confused by this time!! By the time, we arrived at the restaurant we now had half of the restaurant taken up by our party!! And, did we party!! We all had a very, very nice dinner and great conversation!! The restaurant manager suddenly showed up at our table and I thought he was playing a joke on Eunice for her birthday!!
For all I knew, I almost thought he was a stripper some one of all of us had hired at first!! It seemed that he suddenly was apologizing for our wait on dinner!! None of us had noticed there was a wait for dinner as we all were having such a good time!! The manager took 10% off the bill due to our having to wait!! Go figure!!
From the restaurant we all came back to my home for cake and ice cream!! Kind of not knowing what I should do with the extra coconut pecan frosting I just started to ice the chocolate mess cake!! I got about half of it iced!! And, what do you think every one asked for when it came to having cake - every one wanted a piece of "that" chocolate!! Marion finally said he had dibs on that chocolate cake and that it was not fit to eat so he would just take care of it!!
We all continued to have a very good time at my home!! As it turned out, Eunice's son had to turn around and drive back to Chicago yet tonight as his girl friend had a big test in her nurse's college at 8:00 a.m. in the morning that she simply could not miss!! Thus, they had to get on the road again!! They needed to go back over to Eunice's to get their dog and some other things. Eunice insisted she was staying with me until she had every thing cleaned up as she thought I would drop if I were up any longer!! And, that very great new Caregiver I just got, Wanda, stepped right up and told Eunice to "go home and see your son" as she was going to stay and get every thing cleaned up and me resettled for the night again!! So, Eunice got to go home with her son!! And, just before they left, Eunice's son leaned over and gave me a kiss and hug and said "welcome to the family, Sister"!!
I do not know who had the better day Eunice or myself!! But, we have become such good friends I am sure we would be more than willing to share each other's birthdays also!!
Now, needless to say, I got little stitching done the later part of this week and none done this weekend!! I have some parts left on my stitched piece for the "12 Days of Xmas" exchange in addition to doing a "finish" on it also!! That is first priority the first part of this week and then mailings I have sitting here!! And then, I very sincerely hope to move some of my "Stash To Go" out of here before my surgery on the 20th!!
And, this was so precious also today!! My mother called me!! Well, with your surgery on the 20th I think we better forget Thanksgiving this year!! I asked why was this!! And, my mother says well I would certainly be in no shape to cook that soon!! And, I said, quite jokingly, well Mother, I kind of was planning on Turkey Soup and Creamed Corn!! Well, okay, but she did not "think I would want her regular pecan pie with my mouth being so sore, not to mention all the probable stitches, so she would figure out a cream pie that she could bring"!! Dah!! Hello Mother!! I told Eunice about her call and she said she was planning on coming over and putting a turkey in for over here!! I don't even really like turkey, much less do I feel like I need a turkey this year!! But, perhaps Eunice knows my mother better than I do!! I just have to laugh about it all!!
Welcome to my world on a more average weekend around here!! However, I do feel such a great feeling of freedom starting to come back to me again!! Many tried to tell me that Max simply wanted me to be a homebound invalid who knew about very little or truly even cared at that point!! I am turning all his I Can NOT into I CAN and I WILL!!
Miprezious and I are doing real great, become happier each day and are surely OKAY!!
Love and Hugs!
Deborah
and
Miprezious, too!!