Wednesday, May 25, 2011

PROGRESS!! - May 24, 2011

Getting some significant progress!! I am about half way mark with Max's Memory Box top. The original design has a nice border all the way around it, but am not sure if box top opening area will accomodate it or not. Again, time will tell!!

And, below is my "Flower Frog" that Meari was telling about on her blog. I have several more in "That" room. I am getting very close to starting "the dig"!!

I think I must be doing better than I have given my self credit for. My pastor, who did SO much for and with Max, has been spending many hours with a young mother from my church. As I understand she has a four year old little boy and six year old little girl that she adopted about two years ago. This poor woman had severe backaches a bit less than two months ago that became so unbearable she had to consult a doctor.

She was sent to our major medical center at University of Iowa. She was found to have central nervous system cancer which totally invaded her spine, brain, bones and liver VERY rapidly!! She had one chemo treatment at the big medical center which left her entire mouth one big huge openly bleeding sore!! She had been told this chemo would do nothing, but make her more comfortable, but not give her any extended time before she passes!?!?!?!?!!! Yesterday, this dear woman was sitting up in her hospital bed at hospital extended care unit locally, last night she was trying to throw her legs out of bed and was making extremely bad noises of groaning and cryin with intense pain. About 10:00 p.m. last night my pastor telephoned me and asked if I was willing to be her hospice advocate and could I sit with her today. I had some early morning appointments, but told him I surely would go to her today and would be most willing to do any thing I could.

I tossed and turned all night with not being able to decide what I could do and what we could chat about. I was so worried I would do some thing wrong!! However, upon arriving at hospital about 11:00 a.m. this morning, I found this woman almost comatose with very few groans or sounds from her. At one point, she focused on the ceiling and began just thrashing one arm after the other in an attempt to possibly "grab" at some thing. I have never seen a person be in such all out and utter horrorific pain ever!! I have never felt so helpless and wordless in my life!! I was to the point I just wanted to find a corner and cry for this sweet lady!! I believe they said she was 47 years old!! There were photos of the most beautiful children I have ever seen. Fortunately, I do not believe the little man will remember loosing his original mother, but am sure the little gal will and now they loose their adoptive mother after a few years time. And, to think this woman was considered healthy and fine a short two months ago!!

I went through so much with this dear little woman today that I also experienced with Max. I am praying for God's mercies to simply come and take this sweet angel ASAP!! Amazing I can not say today was not without old pains surfacing for me, but I think I was better equipped to handle every thing today and I am "thinking" I might truly like to get in to putting my self on a local list to be called when ever I might be able to help others by simply being there for them!!

Thus, I know I still have a long ways to go, but I know now I can make it and I will be okay!!

Love and Hugs!!



mdgtjulie said...

Wow, that's amazing of you Deborah. I don't know that I could do that without crying myself. I will keep her (and you) in my prayers. I am overly emotional, and something like that would just shred my nerves to nothing! Your box top looks lovely, and so appropriate for what you're using it for. Keep up the good work!!

Gabi said...

Your progress on your box piece looks great. I would think that the border will fit into the box Deborah.
Your flower frog looks cute. I like the fabric border placed in it. Looks great.
What a very sad story about the young mother. This is such a mean disease. So very nice of you to be with her. Although it must leave one feeling totally helpless. :(

Deborah said...

This lovely woman did pass during the night last night.

Love and Hugs!!

Emily in NC said...

The memory box piece looks good. You are so amazing to sit with this lady after having to suffer the same with Max, you are truly a dear.

Kathy said...

I have said it before and I'll say it again. Girlfriend, you are one amazing woman! Truely and angel on earth.

mdgtjulie said...

That's sad for her family, but I'm glad she's no longer suffering!!

Katrien said...

That's so sad of that woman! You're such a wonderful lady.

Nice flower frog, and awesome progress on your memory box WIP

chrisstitches said...

beautiful stitching & scissors frog.

Nancy M said...

Nice progress on your lovely box. I know after my Dad died, my mom was considering being a hospice volunteer. Those people truly are amazing.....just like you!